Sex Tips For Beginners

Post-Sex Etiquette OR How To Make Sure Your
First Time Means There Will Be A Second Time.
A general rule of thumb is to stay the night
afterwards. Obviously, this is going to depend on
your circumstances; spending the night together
isn’t an option if you’ve got 30 minutes before
your folks come home or you’ve snuck off during
a party. But if you have the option, you should
take it; after all, it means there’s more sex in
store in the morning, and who doesn’t want that?
Regardless of whether you spend the entire night
together or if you have to sneak back home, you
owe – at the bare minimum – an extremely
grateful phone call the next day before you run
out and collect high-fives from all of your
buddies… and that’s if you can’t manage to get
together in person. Whether your first time was
with your girlfriend, a willing female friend or a
last-minute hook-up, you’ve shared an amazing
experience1 and you should acknowledge this.
Don’t fear any post-sexual weirdness or
awkwardness; how “weird” it will be afterwards
is entirely up to the two of you and how you
handle it. If you act like you’ve done something
shameful, then of course there will be weirdness.
The deed was done and it was awesome and if
you act normal, it will be normal.

"It was all fine until you started making Star

Wars jokes, Brad."

Having “everything but” experience – that is,

everything but sex – will help you get used to

this in advance. Actual sex won’t be as

intimidating when you’ve had some practical

experience with heavy duty make-out sessions

and oral sex, and you’ll be far more comfortable

not just with her body and it’s attendent

experiences but your own.

A girl’s first time can be uncomfortable, and a lot

of virgin guys worry about causing her pain.

Don’t let it stress you out; it can be painful, but

it’s quick and manageable, and it’s easy for guys

to help make it as painless as possible. The key

is to be gentle and to go slow. Check in with her

about how she feels and what you can do

differently if need be.

Insert Tab A Into Lot B. Repeat As Needed.

Once again: slow your roll, son. Just because the

moment’s upon you doesn’t mean that you

should rush straight for penetration. You’re only

getting this moment once, so you should take

your time and enjoy it. That means foreplay,

foreplay, foreplay . Make out, let hands and

mouths roam over everything not just a bee-line

to the nipples or to oral. Savor every inch and

sensation and just let the moment build. Check

your ego at the door; the sooner you learn to ask

what she likes and how she likes it, the better

you will do now and in the future. A willingness

to take direction cheerfully and a can-do attitude

will not only make up for inexperience but help

ensure a repeat performance… and possibly even

a recommendation to others.

Actual penetration isn’t going to be as easy as

movies would convince you it would be; without

a guiding hand or two, you can expect a few

false starts as you’re trying to fit everything

together. Don’t be afraid to ask for a little help;

her help will make everything go smoother than

just stabbing randomly and hoping to hit the

bullseye.

Don’t stress the act itself. You’re a novice at

this – nobody is going to be expecting a John

Holmes-esque performance of multiple positions

and a string of screaming orgasms prior to you

finishing. Don’t stress about trying multiple

positions or finding the perfect rhythm; slow and

steady will serve you perfectly well until you have

a little more experience under your belt… as it

were. If she’s more experienced than you, then

she may have some suggestions for you. Try

them, you may find that you like the results and

you’ll have some ideas for next time.

And remember: as long as you’re both laughing

and having fun, you can’t do anything wrong. Any

awkwardness or fumbling is going to pass and

you’ll laugh about them afterwards.